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Together in Faith

Reading: 1st Thessalonians 5:9-11

1st Thessalonians 5:11 – “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”

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As we finish this week’s 1st Thessalonians 5 passage, verse 9 begins with a reminder about who and what God is. God is a God who saved the faithful and wants to save all people. God is not an angry God who wants to “pour out his anger.” As we read last week in the parable of the ten bridesmaids, God wants us all to one day be at the eternal wedding banquet. Sadly, some never get prepared to enter into glory. They refuse to accept the invitation.

Verse 10 reveals God’s love for us – for all of us. Christ died to save all people from this earthly life. Yes, he even died for those who might never accept the invitation. God in the flesh desired to see all people enter into God’s love. As those created in his image, we too should desire and should make efforts to see all people come to a saving relationship with Jesus.

Once saved, we have a desire to live with Jesus forever, as Paul reminds us at the end of verse 10. But this desire is not always easy to maintain. Doubt creeps in sometimes. Hardship, suffering, loss, and grief can challenge our faith. The world can push back against our beliefs and our ways of living them out. Sin and the brokenness of this world can weigh heavy upon our faith. In all of these moments and more, we need to heed Paul’s advice found in verse 11: “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” We are better in community. We are stronger together. We can stand more firmly in our faith with one another’s encouragement and support. When one is weak, others are strong. Day by day, may we walk together in faith.

Prayer: Lord God, we know that when we are weak, you are strong. Yet sometimes we have trouble sensing your presence. In these situations, give us the courage to seek others, to find the needed support and encouragement. And when our faith is strong, Lord, give us eyes to see other’s needs. Lead us to come alongside them, lifting and encouraging their walk of faith. Amen.


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“Oil” in our “Lamps”

Reading: Matthew 25:1-6

Matthew 25:6 – “At midnight they were roused by the shout, ‘Look, the bridegroom is coming! Come out and meet him!'”

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Today and tomorrow we read the parable of the ten bridesmaids. It is the first of three parables in chapter 25 that speak of what the kingdom of God is or will be like. All three carry warnings. These three parables, read over three weeks, will challenge us and our faith.

Verses 1-13 begin with the context: “Then the kingdom of God will be like…” To be honest, to be up front, initially this story might not feel at all like what we think the kingdom of God should be like. In the first part of the parable we learn that there are five wise and five foolish bridesmaids. The wise ones brought extra oil. That is the only difference. All ten fall asleep as the bridegroom is really delayed.

The oil in the lamp is often thought of as faith. As we read on, today and in the next two weeks, we will discover that it is more about keeping oil in our lamps. If we are tending to our faith, if we are working on our relationship with the Lord, then when we are roused by a shout or when we are suddenly beset by a storm or trial, then we will have faith to carry us through.

The sleeping bridesmaids are awakened suddenly. In verse 6 we read, “At midnight they were roused by the shout, ‘Look, the bridegroom is coming! Come out and meet him!'” Remember the last time that you were woken unexpectedly in the middle of the night? Disconcerted, confused, discombobulated. In the unexpected and sudden moments of life, if we have not been attentive to our faith and to our present relationship with God, we might just turn to something or someone else. May our “lamps” ever be full.

Prayer: Lord God, in the ordinary of life, it can be easy to cruise along. But when we cruise, our faith can grow thin, almost like it evaporates. Keep us actively tending to our faith in good times, in bad times, and in the ordinary of life. Tending to our faith, Lord fill our “lamps”  – our hearts – with you and your presence – the “oil.” Then, when the shout comes, when the storm crashes down, remind us to let our faith shine, lighting the way through the darkness. Amen.


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Forever… and Daily

Reading: Psalm 90:1-6

Psalm 90:2 – “Before the mountains were born, before you gave birth to the earth and the world, from beginning to end, you are God.”

The first part of our Psalm for this week celebrates God’s eternal nature. Enfolded within God’s eternity is our human existence. The psalmist rejoiced in this reality in verse 1, where Moses writes, “Lord, through all generations you have been our home!” Since Adam and Eve first walked the earth, God has sought us out for relationship and connection. While not everyone chooses to step into this relationship, God’s eternal love seeks to draw all people into a relationship. It is through this relationship that God becomes our “home,” our place of refuge, peace, belonging.

Reflecting deeper on God’s forever nature, Moses writes, “Before the mountains were born, before you gave birth to the earth and the world, from beginning to end, you are God.” Before the creation story began to unfold, God was. And now God is. And God will always be. God is eternal! As we turn to verses 3-6, though, we’re reminded that we are not. At some point, we will all “return to dust.” Moses compares our lives to grass that springs up in the morning and withers by evening. To be reminded of our fragile, short-term existence draws us to God, the one for whom “a thousand years are as a passing day.” This God seeks to continue to walk in relationship with us once we are turned to dust, bringing each of us into eternity.

Moses knew a God who walked with him daily, leading and guiding his 120 years. We too know a God who desires to walk with us each of our days. May we lean into God each day, seeking to walk faithfully in this life. May it be so.

Prayer: Lord God, your love shaped and formed the earth and it shaped and formed each one of us. Within creation and within each of us, the spark of the divine is present. Your love continues to create, to refine, to make things new. Guide us each of our days, however many we are blessed with. Lead us to walk closely with you, O Love, during this life and into the next. Amen.


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“I know you by name.”

Reading: Exodus 33:12-18

Exodus 33:17 – “I will indeed do what you have asked, for I look favorably on you, and I know you by name.”

As chapter 33 begins, God tells Moses and the people to “get going,” to head to the land promised to their ancestors. Today’s portion of this week’s Exodus reading is Moses’ response to this directive along with God’s response to Moses. Moses and the people are not comfortable pressing on without God going with them. So Moses asks God to allow him to know God even more, to “understand you more fully… to enjoy your favor.” God tells Moses that, yes, God will go with him. That is not enough for Moses.

Pressing God, Moses speaks for the people, asking for God’s presence to be with the people too. This presence is what sets them apart from all other people. God responds, “I will indeed do what you have asked, for I look favorably on you, and I know you by name.” God will go with the people too. As assurance, Moses asks to see God’s “glorious presence.” We will unpack this request and God’s response at the end of the week.

What does this exchange between God and Moses reveal to us? Moses is modeling what Paul later wrote about in Philippians 4. He is taking his worry and anxiety to God. Moses honestly talks with God, revealing his faith and trust in their relationship. In turn, God is patient and assures Moses that God will continue to be with him and with the people. God is faithful. And through this presence, God will give Moses rest. God is a provider. As we go to God again and again, with our worries and with our thanksgiving, our relationship with God will grow and deepen. God will look upon us and say, “I know you by name.” May it be so for you and for me.

Prayer: Lord God, lead and guide us to come to you with all that is on our hearts and minds – the praise and thanksgiving, the worries and the fears – all of it. Draw near to us in these moments, assuring us of your presence and love. Deepen our connection to you. Amen.


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Power and Might, Love and Mercy

Reading: Exodus 32:11-14

Exodus 32:12 – “Calm down your fierce anger. Change your mind about doing terrible things to your own people.”

Yesterday we read about the creation of the golden calf. The Israelites were quick to return to what they learned during 400 years in slavery: the golden idols of their enslavers. To return to the familiar was easier than trusting in a God who called them “chosen.” God was furious. God was ready to destroy them all – except Moses.

Turning to today’s reading, Moses first pleads with God on behalf of the people of God. Moses reminds God of the relationship that far exceeds their time in slavery. He reminds God of the ways that God has just begun to rebuild and renew the relationship through the revelation of “great power and amazing force.” Then Moses’ pleading turns to direction as he says to God, “Calm down your fierce anger. Change your mind about doing terrible things to your own people.” Moses invites God away from the feelings of anger and rage. From a better place of heart and mind, Moses reminds God again of the long relationship and of the promises that God made to these people. God relents. God will not destroy the people of God.

This is the first of four times that Moses will intercede on behalf of God’s people. As Moses has walked closely with God, he has come to know not only God’s power and might, but also God’s love and mercy. This second part is what Moses appeals to in today’s text. At times, this is the role that we are called to play. Sometimes through prayer, sometimes through words and/or action, we intercede on behalf of others. Sometimes it is on behalf of those who do not yet know God and sometimes it is on behalf of the powerless or downtrodden. Sometimes it is on behalf of a brother or sister in Christ. Whatever the case, may we always be people who call upon God’s power and might and upon God’s love and mercy as we stand for and with others. Lord, may it be so.

Prayer: Lord God, in the immediate moment of need, give us the courage to pray or to speak or to act. Guard our hearts against judging or wanting to fix the situation first. There will be time to learn and grow and maybe even to change later. But in the moment, use us to intercede for others, relying upon your power and might and upon your love and mercy. Amen.


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Great Reward

Reading: Psalm 19:7-14

Psalm 19:11 – “No doubt about it: your servant is enlightened by them [God’s law]; there is great reward in keeping them.“

Moving into the second half of this week’s Psalm we move into David’s love of God’s word. Through the instruction, guidance, and commands found in the Bible, God seeks to order human behavior in ways that are loving, just, compassionate, kind, merciful, and joyful. Earlier this week we spent time with the Ten Commandments. These ten laws are amongst the best known commands in the scriptures. These words of God and the rest of God’s words found throughout the scriptures seek to lead and guide us to live day by day in right relationship with God and with one another.

For David, God’s laws are “perfect… right… pure… correct… true… more desirable than gold.” It is so for David because of how following God’s laws affect him and his life. For David, God’s laws are “reviving… gladdening… giving light… sweeter than honey.” David offers this great summary statement in verse 11: “No doubt about it: your servant is enlightened by them [God’s law]; there is great reward in keeping them.” When we delve into God’s word, when we mine the scriptures for wisdom, strength, comfort, grace, guidance, direction… we too are “enlightened” and we also find “great reward.” The reward magnifies when we strive to live out these instructions in our daily lives. It is good and it is a blessing because God’s word leads us to live in right relationships with God and with one another.

Psalm 19 closes with a prayer that is offered regularly in worship, maybe in a slightly different translation or phrasing. But the spirit of these words remains. This can also be a prayer that we offer over each of our days. We close today with these words: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” May it be so for you and for me.

Prayer: Lord God, while there are many laws and many different examples of faithfulness in the scriptures, all hinge on a simple idea: love. So lead us to make love our first thought. May it begin with a deep love for you and your ways. And then may it extend to one another. Amen.


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Closer to God, Closer to One Another

Reading: Exodus 20:7-9

Exodus 20:7 – “Do not use the Lord your God’s name as if it were of no significance.”

Photo credit: Aaron Burden

Turning to the third and fourth commandment today, we begin with this: “Do not use the Lord your God’s name as if it were of no significance.” The more familiar translation warns us against using God’s name “in vain.” Along these lines, we can use God’s name in an inappropriate way when we hit our thumb with a hammer or when someone cuts us off in traffic. A similar misuse can slip right out when we’re really angry or frustrated. I like today’s translation because it also reminds me that I can also use God’s name in other ways that are not honoring to God. For example, a phrase like “I swear to God” falls into this category.

But the greatest and most significant way that we misuse the name of God is when we put our name in the place of God’s name. When I assume that I am in control or when I am sure that I know what is right, I’m taking a place that is not mine to take. When I judge or think others are less than or are unworthy, I am going where I should not go. When and how do you act like God or take a role that is God’s to fill?

The fourth commandment helps us in this struggle. (And in our struggles with 1, 2, and 5-10!) Number four instructs us to set a day aside for God. The Sabbath is to be a day of rest and worship, of reflection and renewal. Setting aside a day for God provides time for thanksgiving and for introspection. The weekly practice of evaluating our walk with God and with one another is a vital tool for growing in our relationships with God and with one another. Whether it is Sunday or another day, may we use our holy day to draw closer to God and, in turn, closer to one another.

Prayer: Lord God, thank you for the reminder of who you are and of who we are not. As we remember, may our humility grow and may our selfishness decrease. Turn us to you on a regular basis, speaking into our heart by the power of the Holy Spirit. Through the Spirit’s power, encourage us and convict us, lift us up and refine us. In all of these ways, may our lives then bring you all the glory. Amen.


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Present Always

Reading: Matthew 18:18-20

Matthew 18:20 – “For where two or three are gathered in my name, I’m there with them.”

Continuing in Matthew 18 today, Jesus emphasizes the power of his presence. We experience Christ’s presence when we gather in his name, working together to reconcile a broken relationship. We are extending Christ’s presence when we seek to rebuild connection and when we continue to pursue wholeness even when the other person is resistant. In today’s reading we learn that because Jesus is with us in the reconciliation process, our decisions and actions are guided by the Holy Spirit’s presence. There is divine support for our decisions made and for our actions taken under the guidance and direction of Christ’s Spirit.

Jesus assures us that these things decided upon and prayed over in his name will be done by God. God will do God’s will reflective of our thinking, speaking, acting, and praying according to God’s will. When our efforts at conflict resolution include holy conferencing, the Holy Spirit’s guidance, and a desire to restore and redeem what was broken, then God will work in and through us to bring healing and wholeness to our relationships and to our communities of faith. Unity is God’s plan.

Jesus reminds us of this unity in verse 20, saying, “For where two or three are gathered in my name, I’m there with them.” As we undertake the holy work of reconciliation, Jesus is present in Spirit. And Jesus is present when we gather for worship, when we come together in fellowship, when we enter into a time of study or prayer as a small group, when we serve a meal to a school staff or to folks struggling with poverty… Yes, Jesus is always present to us when we gather in his name. Thanks be to God!

Prayer: Lord God, we are grateful for your Spirit that leads and guides us in all of life. We are especially grateful for the Spirit’s presence in our times of conflict and hurt. In these uncomfortable and often tense situations, lead and guide us to be people of love and grace, mercy and forgiveness, kindness and compassion. Thank you, Lord. Amen.


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Conflict Resolution

Reading: Matthew 18:15-17

Matthew 15:17a – “If your brother or sister sins against you…”

In Matthew’s gospel, as it is throughout the entirety of scripture, there is an emphasis on loving God and neighbor. These actions are the focus of the shema – a three times daily Hebrew prayer. These actions are identified by Jesus (and others) as the two most important commands of God. And even with all of this emphasis, Jesus must still address the fact that in the church – in the place of love – we sin against and we hurt one another.

Before we dive into verses 15-17 today, let us consider what immediately proceeds Jesus’ teaching on conflict resolution. In verses 10-14 we find the very well-known parable of the lost sheep. We recall that a sheep gets lost. The shepherd goes to great lengths – to any length necessary – to find the one lost sheep. Returning the sheep to the flock, there is great rejoicing both on earth and in heaven. We next consider verses 15-17 with this spirit in mind.

Jesus addresses the consequences of sin within the church in three steps. The first step is one-on-one. It is personal and private. There is no airing of our dirty laundry. It is a loving, honest sharing of the hurt. Without an audience, it allows forgiveness to heal a broken relationship. If this effort fails, we are to engage a third party. They can impartially hear both sides of the conflict and offer unbiased input. There may be something that we need to hear too.

And if this fails, we are to bring the conflict to the church’s attention. This engages more listeners and potential mediators. It becomes a group effort to reconcile a damaged relationship. Sadly, even this step fails sometimes. Jesus’ next step? Treat them as you would a Gentile or tax collector. Keep reaching out, meet needs when possible, maybe even have dinner with them. Treat them as you would a lost sheep, going to any length necessary to return them to the flock. In love, may it be so.

Prayer: Lord God, conflict! We do not like it. We want to avoid it. But left unresolved, it poisons our intentions, it harms the body of believers, it taints our words and actions. Lord, empower us to be people of reconciliation. In these efforts, make us brave and transparent. Make us good listeners. Make us people that will go above and beyond to heal brokenness. Amen.


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Choose Good

Reading: Romans 12:14-21

Romans 12:18 – “If possible, to the best of your ability, live at peace with all people.”

Wrapping up our Epistle reading for this week, Paul has some tough words for us. He first asks us to bless those who harass us, to laugh with those who are laughing, and to cry with those who are crying. The invitation is to be present to one another in all of life. The “all” idea continues: “consider everyone as equals” and hang out with people “who have no status.” Don’t just try and see people as all the same. Demonstrate it with your daily life. While these actions are challenging, they are all choices that we can make.

Verses 17 and 18 up the degree of difficulty. In verse 17 Paul proclaims, “Don’t pay anyone back for their evil actions.” It can be so tempting to try and get even. If we manage to not do this, we can be tempted to hold a grudge, nursing that hurt. You know, the lesser of two evils kind of thing, we can tell ourselves. But even holding a grudge is an evil action. It lessens a relationship. It places someone outside of “all.” In a world that certainly champions “justice” – as long as it is our understanding of justice – we have to work hard at following Paul’s proclamation.

In verse 18 we read, “If possible, to the best of your ability, live at peace with all people.” We might read those first eight words as an out. Until we remember that in Paul’s world, all things are possible with God. And, we are not called to rely on our own ability but upon God’s power and presence. So we are left with this: “live at peace with all people.” Paul is back to that inclusive thing: all people. Not just those who are like us or who love us. Also those who harass us, those who take evil actions against us, and those who need a good dose of justice. When we live at peace with all people, then we “defeat evil with good.” May it be so day by day.

Prayer: Lord God, it can be easy to get lost in the weeds of revenge and anger, to get caught up in the ways of the world. There we lose sight of unconditional love and the beauty of grace. We lose sight of those bright “flowers” that are right there and life becomes hard and filled with discontent. When our vision lessens, and all we see are the weeds, Lord raise our eyes up to you. Fill us up with your love, mercy, and grace. Be ever present to us, O God. Amen.